tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29968577.post1909134532007804481..comments2022-11-22T06:54:42.150-07:00Comments on Reversible Errors: Highway Grand OpeningTerri Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14974450565619670462noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29968577.post-62895462036661250752008-12-06T23:30:00.000-07:002008-12-06T23:30:00.000-07:00Nope, not a deal breaker. But still a source of i...Nope, not a deal breaker. But still a source of irritation at times.<BR/><BR/>E's "explanation" or "magic words" came not after many chats, discussions, arguments, what-have-yous ... but after I <I>really</I> saw a difference in her personality when she had a chance to seriously over-socialize. She's generally less bitchy and generally much more satisfied with her life when she's spreading it around with a bunch of people instead of just me. So I finally learned to live with it and even appreciate how happy it makes her to go get giddy with the girls.<BR/><BR/>I do know this though - when I'm feeling somewhat bruised that she's gonna go spend 3 days or 3 weeks with friends, if she then makes a <I>real</I> effort to do something super-special or romantic or that she knows I really enjoy and makes a real effort to show she appreciates me ... that makes a huge difference. But I think you already do that sort of stuff ... and I assume "D" really appreciates it, especially if it's a sort of "thanks" after you go enjoy a social binge.<BR/><BR/>Oh, my, that all sounds advice-like but it's not meant to be. It's just what's ended up working for us. And we're far from a model anyone would want to follow.<BR/><BR/>Unless they like train wrecks. :-)<BR/><BR/>Good luck T-t-t-t-t-t-erri!NThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08758419938470448595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29968577.post-35316284767424936422008-12-05T09:22:00.000-07:002008-12-05T09:22:00.000-07:00Bec: Not that INSANE kind of interesting again, I ...Bec: Not that INSANE kind of interesting again, I hope. :) <BR/><BR/>Jim: Is it a deal breaker for you? Do I have a chance of explaining this (should I need to) effectively and intelligently? What words did E use? <BR/><BR/>My worst fear is blurting out something stupid like, "I just need more attention, is all!"<BR/><BR/>Even if it's true. <BR/><BR/>:)Terri Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14974450565619670462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29968577.post-92093738116170392522008-12-04T21:38:00.000-07:002008-12-04T21:38:00.000-07:00It's be real stupid of me to say something as dens...It's be real stupid of me to say something as dense as "Exclusivity can be a good way - especially when starting out - to learn about each other and build up trust. Once real trust is there then exclusivity can begin expanding to include lots of other social contacts and situations." <BR/><BR/>I guess it'd be especially true if I really really really liked a woman and was pretty sure a bunch of other men would too. Sort of an uber compliment amateurishly served up with a big 'ol dollop of insecurity.<BR/><BR/>But we guys are known for our stupidity, no? So give "D" a real good chance to adapt to your personal need for a wide social circle.<BR/><BR/>Oops. Reading back, I don't see where you asked for anyone's advice. Sorry. @@blush<BR/><BR/>FWIW, "E" and I went through a very similar thing --- I was equally stupid then as I am now. But now she has a very wide social circle, while I pretty much stick with my fewer, but vastly superior, friends.<BR/><BR/>:-)NThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08758419938470448595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29968577.post-85783474208153311652008-12-04T15:37:00.000-07:002008-12-04T15:37:00.000-07:00Oh Terri, its gonna get interesting!! *grins*Oh Terri, its gonna get interesting!! *grins***https://www.blogger.com/profile/08014182459282982937noreply@blogger.com